Despite the edginess in our subject line, we hope this finds you in a moment of peace.
We get our hackles up when we hear admonishments about just "being present".
Phrases like:
"The dishes can wait, your baby is only a baby once."
or
"Relaaaax! You stress too much! Enjoy this moment!"
or
"Do 100 gratitudes every day, so that you can really be present with all the good in your life."
We call bullsh*t!
It's not fair to admonish someone for feeling worry, for struggling to relax, for committing the terrible sin of "not being present", while at the same time giving problematic advice as to how to actually get present!
Seriously, if meditation beat out panic.
And gratitudes beat out despair.
And some jerk telling you to relax brought relaxation...
We'd all be kicking it in fulltime zen mode! But that's just not how it works.
Normal brain function doesn’t even allow for that.
For many of us, staying safe and/or processing the times we haven’t been safe take priority in our brain over finding our bliss, clearing our minds, or being fully present in any moment – especially a slow, quiet, Zen moment.
So if our brain doesn’t prioritize the Zen moments… does that mean we never get to be present or have a say in our current state?
Fortunately, NO! Not by a long shot. (And we’ll tell you more about what we mean by that in our next message – part 2 of “The bullsh*t of ‘just be present’”.
We're with you. Rooting for you. Giving you everything we’ve got, to help you have an easier time.
Love,
Natalie and Nathan
P.S. If you resonate with concepts like these and want to learn more, we encourage you to check out our Emotional Sovereignty School.